I Am an ESTJ

Portrait of an ESTJ – Extraverted Sensing Thinking Judging
(Extraverted Thinking with Introverted Sensing)

The Guardian

As an ESTJ, your primary mode of living is focused externally, where you deal with things rationally and logically. Your secondary mode is internal, where you take things in via your five senses in a literal, concrete fashion.

ESTJs live in a world of facts and concrete needs. They live in the present, with their eye constantly scanning their personal environment to make sure that everything is running smoothly and systematically. They honor traditions and laws, and have a clear set of standards and beliefs. They expect the same of others, and have no patience or understanding of individuals who do not value these systems. They value competence and efficiency, and like to see quick results for their efforts.

ESTJs are take-charge people. They have such a clear vision of the way that things should be, that they naturally step into leadership roles. They are self-confident and aggressive. They are extremely talented at devising systems and plans for action, and at being able to see what steps need to be taken to complete a specific task. They can sometimes be very demanding and critical, because they have such strongly held beliefs, and are likely to express themselves without reserve if they feel someone isn’t meeting their standards. But at least their expressions can be taken at face-value, because the ESTJ is extremely straight-forward and honest.

The ESTJ is usually a model citizen, and pillar of the community. He or she takes their commitments seriously, and follows their own standards of “good citizenship” to the letter. ESTJ enjoys interacting with people, and likes to have fun. ESTJs can be very boisterous and fun at social events, especially activities which are focused on the family, community, or work.

The ESTJ needs to watch out for the tendency to be too rigid, and to become overly detail-oriented. Since they put a lot of weight in their own beliefs, it’s important that they remember to value other people’s input and opinions. If they neglect their Feeling side, they may have a problem with fulfilling other’s needs for intimacy, and may unknowingly hurt people’s feelings by applying logic and reason to situations which demand more emotional sensitivity.

When bogged down by stress, an ESTJ often feels isolated from others. They feel as if they are misunderstood and undervalued, and that their efforts are taken for granted. Although normally the ESTJ is very verbal and doesn’t have any problem expressing themself, when under stress they have a hard time putting their feelings into words and communicating them to others.

ESTJs value security and social order above all else, and feel obligated to do all that they can to enhance and promote these goals. They will mow the lawn, vote, join the PTA, attend home owners association meetings, and generally do anything that they can to promote personal and social security.

The ESTJ puts forth a lot of effort in almost everything that they do. They will do everything that they think should be done in their job, marriage, and community with a good amount of energy. He or she is conscientious, practical, realistic, and dependable. While the ESTJ will dutifully do everything that is important to work towards a particular cause or goal, they might not naturally see or value the importance of goals which are outside of their practical scope. However, if the ESTJ is able to see the relevance of such goals to practical concerns, you can bet that they’ll put every effort into understanding them and incorporating them into their quest for clarity and security.

Jungian functional preference ordering:

Dominant: Extraverted Thinking
Auxiliary: Introverted Sensing
Tertiary: Extraverted Intuition
Inferior: Introverted Feeling


You like to roll up your sleeves, dig in and go right at getting the job done. you use logic and analysis as guiding principles in your life. You’re quick to decide and set out a plan of action. You make sure commitments (your own and those of others) are honored and the job gets done.

You value team sports, and other group activities. If something is the tradition of your job or school, you’ll take part in it. You know that you have to “earn your keep” and take responsibility for yourself…you take your roles seriously (father, employee, student, or whatever).

You learn best in structured settings…you’re a take charge kinda person.. you can deliver when there’s a specific task with deadlines…you have an orderly and logical way of evaluating things..

You like a task-oriented and structured atmosphere…you get a thrill outta accomplishments and just having finished something…efficiency is important to you….with you, “what you see is what you get.”

You are the prototypical leader. You give advice freely, you take charge, you wanna fix the problems…you are quick, direct, and crisp at getting to the core of the situation…others might look at you as tough, driven, or heartless, though..

You put work before pleasure, and know when to do which…fun time is often seen as a reward for accomplishing a task…you know that you should post on the Storm Palace message base before playing the games….right? :)… you don’t just go for walks.. the walk hasta have a purpose…

Love means stability and steadfastedness…however, when you fall in love, this is pretty much the only time you’ll be flexible and spontaneous… you expect security and loyalty in relationships…you logically expect that a relationship will have its ups and downs, so let the other person weather the tough times, when you should be helping perhaps…you don’t like to let others see your hurt feelings….you’re supersensitive to being rejected and may not always share that hurt…

Things to watch for: you might decide too quickly and to form opinions how things “ought to get done.” But what happens when circumstances change? Also, don’t walk on others feelings…it’s part of working with others and you don’t particularly consider this part often…when you get emotional and you’ve been holding stuff inside, a seemingly minor incident will set off an explosion…don’t forget to consider others’ values and opinions.

ESTJ: “Execution Saves The Job”


ESTJ Relationships

ESTJs are very enthusiastic people who are driven to fulfill their obligations and duties, especially those towards their families. Their priorities generally put God first, family second, and friends third. They put forth a tremendous amount of effort to meet their obligations and duties, according to their priorities. They are dedicated and committed to their relationships, which they consider to be lifelong and unalterable. They like to be in charge, and may be very controlling of their mates and children. They have high esteem for traditions and institutions, and expect that their mates and children will support these as well. They have little patience and need for dealing with people who see things very differently from the ESTJ.

ESTJ Strengths

• Generally enthusiastic, upbeat and friendly
• Stable and dependable, they can be counted on to promote security for their families
• Put forth a lot of effort to fulfill their duties and obligations
• Responsible about taking care of day-to-day practical concerns around the house
• Usually good (albeit conservative) with money
• Not personally threatened by conflict or criticism
• Interested in resolving conflict, rather than ignoring it
• Take their commitments very seriously, and seek lifelong relationships
• Able to move on after a relationship breaks up
• Able to administer discipline when necessary

ESTJ Weaknesses

• Tendency to believe that they are always right
• Tendency to need to always be in charge
• Impatient with inefficiency and sloppiness
• Not naturally in tune with what others are feeling
• Not naturally good at expressing their feelings and emotions
• May inadvertantly hurt others with insensitive language
• Tendency to be materialistic and status-conscious
• Generally uncomfortable with change, and moving into new territories


How to Spot ESTJs:
• hearty, business-like energy
• decisive, logical decision makers
• direct, no nonsense and practical
• conservative, functional dressers

Tips for Communicating with ESTJs:
• Be assertive and to the point (bottom line it!)
• Be prepared to support your ideas with logical reasons
• Appeal to their innate sense of fairness


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